Most girls hate to shave. I know this and understand why. It's a hassle. I actually don't have a problem shaving, UNTIL I put it off for 2 weeks.
I get a new job that has me working 11 hour days, and I have a pinched nerve in my shoulder that makes my left arm and hand useless. Now I have hair growing on my legs and chest that I have not seen in almost 2 years. Crud.
Usually I will shave my chest in the shower. Quick easy and done. Legs are another story. They are always a bath. Yesterday I made the time to shave both. Holy Cow I destroyed a razor. It's a wonder the razor made it until the end. the bathtub bottom was a different color when the water drained out.
I feel so much better hair free. I understand those commercials for laser hair removal. If it wasn't so expensive, I would jump right into it. I did see a Groupon for it and thinking of getting my face done for under $200. still an expense, but I think that would be well worth it.
Trying to make a promise to myself not to wait this long between shaves, but I know that is a fools promise. Same kind of promise I make to eat better and lose that last 20 pounds. But I will try.
-Candi
Sunday, July 20, 2014
Saturday, June 21, 2014
The Trans Communty Is Not Being Heard Fully
This is a great article by Drew Cordes on bilerico.com. The basic premise is for the trans*, there is only one story being told. If you are part of this community, or have done any research at all in it, there is so much more.
"This is the story everyone can write: Ever since childhood, so-and-so felt they were "trapped in the wrong body." They wanted to wear the clothes and play with the toys of the other gender. They were bullied and ostracized. As they grew up, they became depressed. Perhaps even suicide was considered or attempted. Eventually they got the help they needed and transitioned to the opposite gender through hormones and surgery. They're much happier now, but things are still tough and they struggle sometimes."
I'm sure you have heard that story over and over. But what about this:
"Where are the mainstream narratives for the femme faggy trans* men, masculine stone butch trans* dykes, intersex people who don't identify as male or female, genderqueer folks who favor a slinky cocktail dress Friday night and a three-piece suit on Saturday?"
It's a great read and I highly recommend it.
-Candi
"This is the story everyone can write: Ever since childhood, so-and-so felt they were "trapped in the wrong body." They wanted to wear the clothes and play with the toys of the other gender. They were bullied and ostracized. As they grew up, they became depressed. Perhaps even suicide was considered or attempted. Eventually they got the help they needed and transitioned to the opposite gender through hormones and surgery. They're much happier now, but things are still tough and they struggle sometimes."
I'm sure you have heard that story over and over. But what about this:
"Where are the mainstream narratives for the femme faggy trans* men, masculine stone butch trans* dykes, intersex people who don't identify as male or female, genderqueer folks who favor a slinky cocktail dress Friday night and a three-piece suit on Saturday?"
It's a great read and I highly recommend it.
-Candi
Friday, June 20, 2014
Buying Makeup
Sometimes it's fun to shock people. B and I went to JC Penney just to browse. We started talking about makeup and I mentioned that I needed foundation. So we went to the Sephora counter. Looking.....looking. Found something that works.
Go to pay for it and the cashier asks if we had a Sephora membership and would we want one since it's free. Sure, I said. Then gave her all my information. Realize I am in boy mode during this trip. She gave me a look and just took the information.
Go to pay for it and the cashier asks if we had a Sephora membership and would we want one since it's free. Sure, I said. Then gave her all my information. Realize I am in boy mode during this trip. She gave me a look and just took the information.
Monday, May 19, 2014
Walking In High Heels
I found this gif working on my Tumblr blog and thought, "mmhhh, this would be good practice for a new heel wearer."
Thursday, May 8, 2014
Mascara
I like mascara. I really like the way it highlights my eyes. I don't do the colored mascara. It's just black for me. And I don't see the difference in the "shades" of black. Black is black for mascara. I like it better than eye liner. Maybe because I can't draw a straight line on both eyes.
But I hate mascara because it's a pain the ass to take off. Without rubbing and rubbing I don't seem to get all of it off. Then when I go somewhere I should not have mascara on (read that as in boy mode), there is still some on my lashes. That will quickly get me outed.
So there you have it. I don't need 48 hr mascara.
-Candi
But I hate mascara because it's a pain the ass to take off. Without rubbing and rubbing I don't seem to get all of it off. Then when I go somewhere I should not have mascara on (read that as in boy mode), there is still some on my lashes. That will quickly get me outed.
So there you have it. I don't need 48 hr mascara.
-Candi
Wednesday, April 30, 2014
Transgender remodeler Reilley Lawrence changes rooms — and preconceptions
Great cover story on a friend and her business.
http://www.dallasvoice.com/great-spaces-%E2%80%A2-spring-2014-hammer-10171456.html?fb_action_ids=504716952966721&fb_action_types=og.likes
By Jef Tingley
For 47-year-old home remodeler Reilley Lawrence, life is a series of risks and rewards — both personally and professionally.
Before making the decision to live and work as a transgender woman, Reilley was a self-proclaimed, über-macho military guy parachuting out of airplanes and participating in Operation Desert Storm.
She attributes this “jump in and learn” attitude with helping her hone and perfect her home renovation skills, ultimately leading to her business, Deco Design & Remodel, which she started seven years ago.
Taking another personal risk to be true to herself, about two years ago Reilley began dressing as a woman even when meeting with clients. And despite “a few haters,” once again the risk paid off.
“My [gender identity] has really been a nonissue for my clients,” she says. “I’m very outgoing, and my personality and knowledge overshadow any other issues. In fact, I’ve actually found my business has increased since I started dressing full time.”
But being transgender is only incidental to the approach she takes to working on a remodel.
A big believer in the impact colors can have on a space, Reilley begins new project assessments by aligning color choices with the personalities of the homeowners.
“Reds, oranges and yellows work well for vibrant personalities,” she says. “I have a lot of these in my own home.”
For a more peaceful vibe, she recommends blues and greens or earth tones for the yet-to-decide.
“I did an exterior paint project for this very outgoing, fiery couple,” she explains about one of her favorite projects — painting a craftsman home a vibrant collection of brick red, cream, dark green and pistachio accents. “They loved it. That’s the sign of a successful renovation, you should pull up to your house after a long day, and it should make you happy.”
Remodeling can add value, of course, but it can also put you out while in the process. And sometimes, one room needs it more than another. So when helping clients determine which room to remodel, Reilley recommends those in which homeowners spend the most time to get the biggest “bang for the buck.”
“Home is supposed to be a retreat where you can recharge,” she says. “It should be a space that’s comforting, but also kind of hooks you up to jumper cables.”
She cautions, however, that often times cosmetic changes can go just as far as structural and be much easier on the wallet.
“Tearing down walls sounds good until you see the cost,” she says. To help clients overcome this sticker shock, she walks them through cost effective options that can bring immediate change to make a space more inviting such as paint and trim.
While some clients come to Reilley with a complete vision in mind, others need much more guidance. Reilley recommends the uninspired homeowner look at magazines or take photos of rooms they like to piece together elements of what they want. From there, she even sketches out a rendering of what the finished product might look like.
“I’ll do anything to help get them to stop staring at four white walls,” she says.
A good remodel comes down to being true to your personal aesthetic and creating the space that’s authentic and enjoyable. Having accomplished this in real life, Reilley now helps others down this same inspired path — a fiery yellow one for the outgoing and a peaceful blue one for the more subdued.
For more information, contact Deco Design & Remodel, 972-371-9200. DangerReilley@gmail.com.
http://www.dallasvoice.com/great-spaces-%E2%80%A2-spring-2014-hammer-10171456.html?fb_action_ids=504716952966721&fb_action_types=og.likes
Transgender remodeler Reilley Lawrence changes rooms — and preconceptions
Remodeler Reilley Lawrence says knowing a homeowner’s ‘colors’ is the first step in an effective redo.
For 47-year-old home remodeler Reilley Lawrence, life is a series of risks and rewards — both personally and professionally.
Before making the decision to live and work as a transgender woman, Reilley was a self-proclaimed, über-macho military guy parachuting out of airplanes and participating in Operation Desert Storm.
She attributes this “jump in and learn” attitude with helping her hone and perfect her home renovation skills, ultimately leading to her business, Deco Design & Remodel, which she started seven years ago.
Taking another personal risk to be true to herself, about two years ago Reilley began dressing as a woman even when meeting with clients. And despite “a few haters,” once again the risk paid off.
“My [gender identity] has really been a nonissue for my clients,” she says. “I’m very outgoing, and my personality and knowledge overshadow any other issues. In fact, I’ve actually found my business has increased since I started dressing full time.”
But being transgender is only incidental to the approach she takes to working on a remodel.
A big believer in the impact colors can have on a space, Reilley begins new project assessments by aligning color choices with the personalities of the homeowners.
“Reds, oranges and yellows work well for vibrant personalities,” she says. “I have a lot of these in my own home.”
For a more peaceful vibe, she recommends blues and greens or earth tones for the yet-to-decide.
“I did an exterior paint project for this very outgoing, fiery couple,” she explains about one of her favorite projects — painting a craftsman home a vibrant collection of brick red, cream, dark green and pistachio accents. “They loved it. That’s the sign of a successful renovation, you should pull up to your house after a long day, and it should make you happy.”
Remodeling can add value, of course, but it can also put you out while in the process. And sometimes, one room needs it more than another. So when helping clients determine which room to remodel, Reilley recommends those in which homeowners spend the most time to get the biggest “bang for the buck.”
“Home is supposed to be a retreat where you can recharge,” she says. “It should be a space that’s comforting, but also kind of hooks you up to jumper cables.”
She cautions, however, that often times cosmetic changes can go just as far as structural and be much easier on the wallet.
“Tearing down walls sounds good until you see the cost,” she says. To help clients overcome this sticker shock, she walks them through cost effective options that can bring immediate change to make a space more inviting such as paint and trim.
While some clients come to Reilley with a complete vision in mind, others need much more guidance. Reilley recommends the uninspired homeowner look at magazines or take photos of rooms they like to piece together elements of what they want. From there, she even sketches out a rendering of what the finished product might look like.
“I’ll do anything to help get them to stop staring at four white walls,” she says.
A good remodel comes down to being true to your personal aesthetic and creating the space that’s authentic and enjoyable. Having accomplished this in real life, Reilley now helps others down this same inspired path — a fiery yellow one for the outgoing and a peaceful blue one for the more subdued.
For more information, contact Deco Design & Remodel, 972-371-9200. DangerReilley@gmail.com.
Wednesday, April 23, 2014
Some Gays Are Ignorant And That's OK
So I had this post rattling around in my head after talking to a friend a couple weeks ago. He said that he is attracted to women, but when he is She, she is attracted more to men. As a crossdresser, I'm trying to wrap my head around gender fluidity so I can get other people's heads wrapped around it also. Then I stumbled onto this article. It's short sweet and to the point.
http://genderfun.blogspot.com/2013/05/some-gays-are-ignorant-and-thats-ok.html
Read the whole thing, but here is one paragraph:
You would think that with the fight for equality their would be more educating the masses on what being Gay is all about, showcasing the similarities between the Gay and Straight human experience yet the divide seems to be getting wider. Both parties, Gay and Straight, seem unwilling to see the gray area of the sexual orientation scale.
enjoy...
-Candi
http://genderfun.blogspot.com/2013/05/some-gays-are-ignorant-and-thats-ok.html
Read the whole thing, but here is one paragraph:
You would think that with the fight for equality their would be more educating the masses on what being Gay is all about, showcasing the similarities between the Gay and Straight human experience yet the divide seems to be getting wider. Both parties, Gay and Straight, seem unwilling to see the gray area of the sexual orientation scale.
enjoy...
-Candi
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