Most girls hate to shave. I know this and understand why. It's a hassle. I actually don't have a problem shaving, UNTIL I put it off for 2 weeks.
I get a new job that has me working 11 hour days, and I have a pinched nerve in my shoulder that makes my left arm and hand useless. Now I have hair growing on my legs and chest that I have not seen in almost 2 years. Crud.
Usually I will shave my chest in the shower. Quick easy and done. Legs are another story. They are always a bath. Yesterday I made the time to shave both. Holy Cow I destroyed a razor. It's a wonder the razor made it until the end. the bathtub bottom was a different color when the water drained out.
I feel so much better hair free. I understand those commercials for laser hair removal. If it wasn't so expensive, I would jump right into it. I did see a Groupon for it and thinking of getting my face done for under $200. still an expense, but I think that would be well worth it.
Trying to make a promise to myself not to wait this long between shaves, but I know that is a fools promise. Same kind of promise I make to eat better and lose that last 20 pounds. But I will try.
-Candi
Sunday, July 20, 2014
Saturday, June 21, 2014
The Trans Communty Is Not Being Heard Fully
This is a great article by Drew Cordes on bilerico.com. The basic premise is for the trans*, there is only one story being told. If you are part of this community, or have done any research at all in it, there is so much more.
"This is the story everyone can write: Ever since childhood, so-and-so felt they were "trapped in the wrong body." They wanted to wear the clothes and play with the toys of the other gender. They were bullied and ostracized. As they grew up, they became depressed. Perhaps even suicide was considered or attempted. Eventually they got the help they needed and transitioned to the opposite gender through hormones and surgery. They're much happier now, but things are still tough and they struggle sometimes."
I'm sure you have heard that story over and over. But what about this:
"Where are the mainstream narratives for the femme faggy trans* men, masculine stone butch trans* dykes, intersex people who don't identify as male or female, genderqueer folks who favor a slinky cocktail dress Friday night and a three-piece suit on Saturday?"
It's a great read and I highly recommend it.
-Candi
"This is the story everyone can write: Ever since childhood, so-and-so felt they were "trapped in the wrong body." They wanted to wear the clothes and play with the toys of the other gender. They were bullied and ostracized. As they grew up, they became depressed. Perhaps even suicide was considered or attempted. Eventually they got the help they needed and transitioned to the opposite gender through hormones and surgery. They're much happier now, but things are still tough and they struggle sometimes."
I'm sure you have heard that story over and over. But what about this:
"Where are the mainstream narratives for the femme faggy trans* men, masculine stone butch trans* dykes, intersex people who don't identify as male or female, genderqueer folks who favor a slinky cocktail dress Friday night and a three-piece suit on Saturday?"
It's a great read and I highly recommend it.
-Candi
Friday, June 20, 2014
Buying Makeup
Sometimes it's fun to shock people. B and I went to JC Penney just to browse. We started talking about makeup and I mentioned that I needed foundation. So we went to the Sephora counter. Looking.....looking. Found something that works.
Go to pay for it and the cashier asks if we had a Sephora membership and would we want one since it's free. Sure, I said. Then gave her all my information. Realize I am in boy mode during this trip. She gave me a look and just took the information.
Go to pay for it and the cashier asks if we had a Sephora membership and would we want one since it's free. Sure, I said. Then gave her all my information. Realize I am in boy mode during this trip. She gave me a look and just took the information.
Monday, May 19, 2014
Walking In High Heels
I found this gif working on my Tumblr blog and thought, "mmhhh, this would be good practice for a new heel wearer."
Thursday, May 8, 2014
Mascara
I like mascara. I really like the way it highlights my eyes. I don't do the colored mascara. It's just black for me. And I don't see the difference in the "shades" of black. Black is black for mascara. I like it better than eye liner. Maybe because I can't draw a straight line on both eyes.
But I hate mascara because it's a pain the ass to take off. Without rubbing and rubbing I don't seem to get all of it off. Then when I go somewhere I should not have mascara on (read that as in boy mode), there is still some on my lashes. That will quickly get me outed.
So there you have it. I don't need 48 hr mascara.
-Candi
But I hate mascara because it's a pain the ass to take off. Without rubbing and rubbing I don't seem to get all of it off. Then when I go somewhere I should not have mascara on (read that as in boy mode), there is still some on my lashes. That will quickly get me outed.
So there you have it. I don't need 48 hr mascara.
-Candi
Wednesday, April 30, 2014
Transgender remodeler Reilley Lawrence changes rooms — and preconceptions
Great cover story on a friend and her business.
http://www.dallasvoice.com/great-spaces-%E2%80%A2-spring-2014-hammer-10171456.html?fb_action_ids=504716952966721&fb_action_types=og.likes
By Jef Tingley
For 47-year-old home remodeler Reilley Lawrence, life is a series of risks and rewards — both personally and professionally.
Before making the decision to live and work as a transgender woman, Reilley was a self-proclaimed, über-macho military guy parachuting out of airplanes and participating in Operation Desert Storm.
She attributes this “jump in and learn” attitude with helping her hone and perfect her home renovation skills, ultimately leading to her business, Deco Design & Remodel, which she started seven years ago.
Taking another personal risk to be true to herself, about two years ago Reilley began dressing as a woman even when meeting with clients. And despite “a few haters,” once again the risk paid off.
“My [gender identity] has really been a nonissue for my clients,” she says. “I’m very outgoing, and my personality and knowledge overshadow any other issues. In fact, I’ve actually found my business has increased since I started dressing full time.”
But being transgender is only incidental to the approach she takes to working on a remodel.
A big believer in the impact colors can have on a space, Reilley begins new project assessments by aligning color choices with the personalities of the homeowners.
“Reds, oranges and yellows work well for vibrant personalities,” she says. “I have a lot of these in my own home.”
For a more peaceful vibe, she recommends blues and greens or earth tones for the yet-to-decide.
“I did an exterior paint project for this very outgoing, fiery couple,” she explains about one of her favorite projects — painting a craftsman home a vibrant collection of brick red, cream, dark green and pistachio accents. “They loved it. That’s the sign of a successful renovation, you should pull up to your house after a long day, and it should make you happy.”
Remodeling can add value, of course, but it can also put you out while in the process. And sometimes, one room needs it more than another. So when helping clients determine which room to remodel, Reilley recommends those in which homeowners spend the most time to get the biggest “bang for the buck.”
“Home is supposed to be a retreat where you can recharge,” she says. “It should be a space that’s comforting, but also kind of hooks you up to jumper cables.”
She cautions, however, that often times cosmetic changes can go just as far as structural and be much easier on the wallet.
“Tearing down walls sounds good until you see the cost,” she says. To help clients overcome this sticker shock, she walks them through cost effective options that can bring immediate change to make a space more inviting such as paint and trim.
While some clients come to Reilley with a complete vision in mind, others need much more guidance. Reilley recommends the uninspired homeowner look at magazines or take photos of rooms they like to piece together elements of what they want. From there, she even sketches out a rendering of what the finished product might look like.
“I’ll do anything to help get them to stop staring at four white walls,” she says.
A good remodel comes down to being true to your personal aesthetic and creating the space that’s authentic and enjoyable. Having accomplished this in real life, Reilley now helps others down this same inspired path — a fiery yellow one for the outgoing and a peaceful blue one for the more subdued.
For more information, contact Deco Design & Remodel, 972-371-9200. DangerReilley@gmail.com.
http://www.dallasvoice.com/great-spaces-%E2%80%A2-spring-2014-hammer-10171456.html?fb_action_ids=504716952966721&fb_action_types=og.likes
Transgender remodeler Reilley Lawrence changes rooms — and preconceptions
Remodeler Reilley Lawrence says knowing a homeowner’s ‘colors’ is the first step in an effective redo.
For 47-year-old home remodeler Reilley Lawrence, life is a series of risks and rewards — both personally and professionally.
Before making the decision to live and work as a transgender woman, Reilley was a self-proclaimed, über-macho military guy parachuting out of airplanes and participating in Operation Desert Storm.
She attributes this “jump in and learn” attitude with helping her hone and perfect her home renovation skills, ultimately leading to her business, Deco Design & Remodel, which she started seven years ago.
Taking another personal risk to be true to herself, about two years ago Reilley began dressing as a woman even when meeting with clients. And despite “a few haters,” once again the risk paid off.
“My [gender identity] has really been a nonissue for my clients,” she says. “I’m very outgoing, and my personality and knowledge overshadow any other issues. In fact, I’ve actually found my business has increased since I started dressing full time.”
But being transgender is only incidental to the approach she takes to working on a remodel.
A big believer in the impact colors can have on a space, Reilley begins new project assessments by aligning color choices with the personalities of the homeowners.
“Reds, oranges and yellows work well for vibrant personalities,” she says. “I have a lot of these in my own home.”
For a more peaceful vibe, she recommends blues and greens or earth tones for the yet-to-decide.
“I did an exterior paint project for this very outgoing, fiery couple,” she explains about one of her favorite projects — painting a craftsman home a vibrant collection of brick red, cream, dark green and pistachio accents. “They loved it. That’s the sign of a successful renovation, you should pull up to your house after a long day, and it should make you happy.”
Remodeling can add value, of course, but it can also put you out while in the process. And sometimes, one room needs it more than another. So when helping clients determine which room to remodel, Reilley recommends those in which homeowners spend the most time to get the biggest “bang for the buck.”
“Home is supposed to be a retreat where you can recharge,” she says. “It should be a space that’s comforting, but also kind of hooks you up to jumper cables.”
She cautions, however, that often times cosmetic changes can go just as far as structural and be much easier on the wallet.
“Tearing down walls sounds good until you see the cost,” she says. To help clients overcome this sticker shock, she walks them through cost effective options that can bring immediate change to make a space more inviting such as paint and trim.
While some clients come to Reilley with a complete vision in mind, others need much more guidance. Reilley recommends the uninspired homeowner look at magazines or take photos of rooms they like to piece together elements of what they want. From there, she even sketches out a rendering of what the finished product might look like.
“I’ll do anything to help get them to stop staring at four white walls,” she says.
A good remodel comes down to being true to your personal aesthetic and creating the space that’s authentic and enjoyable. Having accomplished this in real life, Reilley now helps others down this same inspired path — a fiery yellow one for the outgoing and a peaceful blue one for the more subdued.
For more information, contact Deco Design & Remodel, 972-371-9200. DangerReilley@gmail.com.
Wednesday, April 23, 2014
Some Gays Are Ignorant And That's OK
So I had this post rattling around in my head after talking to a friend a couple weeks ago. He said that he is attracted to women, but when he is She, she is attracted more to men. As a crossdresser, I'm trying to wrap my head around gender fluidity so I can get other people's heads wrapped around it also. Then I stumbled onto this article. It's short sweet and to the point.
http://genderfun.blogspot.com/2013/05/some-gays-are-ignorant-and-thats-ok.html
Read the whole thing, but here is one paragraph:
You would think that with the fight for equality their would be more educating the masses on what being Gay is all about, showcasing the similarities between the Gay and Straight human experience yet the divide seems to be getting wider. Both parties, Gay and Straight, seem unwilling to see the gray area of the sexual orientation scale.
enjoy...
-Candi
http://genderfun.blogspot.com/2013/05/some-gays-are-ignorant-and-thats-ok.html
Read the whole thing, but here is one paragraph:
You would think that with the fight for equality their would be more educating the masses on what being Gay is all about, showcasing the similarities between the Gay and Straight human experience yet the divide seems to be getting wider. Both parties, Gay and Straight, seem unwilling to see the gray area of the sexual orientation scale.
enjoy...
-Candi
Thursday, April 17, 2014
Pictures and Meetup
Went to a Meetup tonight. B wasn't feeling well so I went alone...in boy mode like I usually do in FTW. Saw Robert and met a few new people. The new girls asked to see a picture of Candi. Well my picture @ the last karaoke meetup at Sue Ellens is a good pic so I pulled up the app and the picture is gone. NNNNNOOOOOOOO.
Well I have a couple from Christmas party with B and Jackie Bee. Also some from Halloween. I got home and started thinking. What would Google do. So I logged into Google+ under Candi and sure enough, I have a dozen pics in there. There is the black lace dress that I was going to show off.
The moment has passed, but nice to know that the pic is still alive and well.
-Candi
Well I have a couple from Christmas party with B and Jackie Bee. Also some from Halloween. I got home and started thinking. What would Google do. So I logged into Google+ under Candi and sure enough, I have a dozen pics in there. There is the black lace dress that I was going to show off.
The moment has passed, but nice to know that the pic is still alive and well.
-Candi
Tuesday, April 1, 2014
Karaoke
Karaoke was not well attended last night, but that makes it better conversation. Nicole was in drag (came in boy mode) and didn't bring her camera. So before I left I got just a few pictures. Since this is my blog, I'm showing off my new dress.
Facebook is a great tool. You can connect with your current friends, set up events, message, etc. You can also connect with old high school people that you never talked to even when you were in high school.
And lastly you can send pictures of your penis to girls on Facebook. That happened to me yesterday. I was happily typing along and a message appeared "Hi". Well "Hi" back Deram Too (whoever you are). Maybe I added him as a friend because he is a friend of a friend. Not sure. I get three dots "...", then I get a picture of his (I assume) penis.
Yes you read that correctly. Even when I tell him I'm not interested, he pushes wanting pictures from me. REALLY?!? How many times has that actually worked for you. Did you just read a story on Fictionmania or Literotica and think "if it worked in this story, it has to work for me."
I just blocked him. I thought about some replies but wasn't fast on my heels so just blocked. But here are some responses I thought of after the fact.
I prefer an innie instead of an outie.
Looks like some red bumps on there. You need to get that checked out.
Do you have something in a larger size?
After talking to the girls last night, it's not unusual at all. guess I will be ready for the next one.
-Candi
And lastly you can send pictures of your penis to girls on Facebook. That happened to me yesterday. I was happily typing along and a message appeared "Hi". Well "Hi" back Deram Too (whoever you are). Maybe I added him as a friend because he is a friend of a friend. Not sure. I get three dots "...", then I get a picture of his (I assume) penis.
Yes you read that correctly. Even when I tell him I'm not interested, he pushes wanting pictures from me. REALLY?!? How many times has that actually worked for you. Did you just read a story on Fictionmania or Literotica and think "if it worked in this story, it has to work for me."
I just blocked him. I thought about some replies but wasn't fast on my heels so just blocked. But here are some responses I thought of after the fact.
I prefer an innie instead of an outie.
Looks like some red bumps on there. You need to get that checked out.
Do you have something in a larger size?
After talking to the girls last night, it's not unusual at all. guess I will be ready for the next one.
-Candi
Tuesday, March 25, 2014
Girl Time
Today is the first day of unemployment. Although we will have a little money coming in, for the next few weeks we have to watch what we spend. Unfortunately the same goes for Candi. Although I can go out on a Monday night and spend less than $10, usually it's a little more. Also there is the gas to get there.
Lifestyle changes, that's all. Tomorrow I will get some girl time. Everyone will be at school so I can spend the day "out". That's the current plan. Looking forward to catching up on projects for sure. Until tomorrow. I might be really bored tomorrow :o)
-Candi
Lifestyle changes, that's all. Tomorrow I will get some girl time. Everyone will be at school so I can spend the day "out". That's the current plan. Looking forward to catching up on projects for sure. Until tomorrow. I might be really bored tomorrow :o)
-Candi
Saturday, March 22, 2014
Unemployed
Now that I'm unemployed, I think I'm going to start working on that honey-do list I have been putting off for months.
I'm starting with putting up Christmas lights. Where is my ladder?
I'm starting with putting up Christmas lights. Where is my ladder?
I Know The Truth
Anonymous whispered: do you think you're smart?
depends on your definition of smart. I honestly don’t give a shit about school and I don’t think that things that they teach us in school makes us “smart”. I like to read tho, I’ve read a lot of books…so Idk you decide :)
depends on your definition of smart. I honestly don’t give a shit about school and I don’t think that things that they teach us in school makes us “smart”. I like to read tho, I’ve read a lot of books…so Idk you decide :)
Wednesday, March 19, 2014
Working as Candi
So I just found out I will be without a job in less than a week. My center was closed down. Now I have to find another job. one option is to work from home. There are pros and cons to that. One con for sure would be all the family at home all day long.
One PRO would be I can be Candi at home working more and more. That would be really cool. I have a friend who is full time at work. That's a lot of work, and I'm proud of her. This is something to think about.
-Candi
One PRO would be I can be Candi at home working more and more. That would be really cool. I have a friend who is full time at work. That's a lot of work, and I'm proud of her. This is something to think about.
-Candi
Saturday, March 8, 2014
Wednesday, March 5, 2014
Hiding
I went to mom's house last weekend. Had to do some work on the house. Of course nobody there knows about Candi. What sucks is when I forget to take the polish off my toe nails. I did only have a clear coat on fingers so that was not a problem. Unfortunately, the whole time I had to keep my socks or shoes on.
Lesson learned.
-Candi
Lesson learned.
-Candi
Saturday, March 1, 2014
Picture Time
Alex is the daughter of a girl in the CD group I am a part of. She is going to school for photography and she just won a scholarship. She is doing an exhibit in May of different girls in this group. I went to her house and did some pictures. Looking forward to the opening of the show.
She also said she would do some couple pictures of me and B. Just for that I started a Tumblr blog looking at poses and things to go with. you can check it out here: http://brandyslover.tumblr.com/
-Candi
She also said she would do some couple pictures of me and B. Just for that I started a Tumblr blog looking at poses and things to go with. you can check it out here: http://brandyslover.tumblr.com/
-Candi
Saturday, February 15, 2014
Male, Female, or Custom
Facebook has decided to make gender identity whatever you want. This is great for the Transgender community.
http://www.foxnews.com/tech/2014/02/13/male-female-or-custom-facebook-announces-major-expansion-terms-to-identify/
http://www.foxnews.com/tech/2014/02/13/male-female-or-custom-facebook-announces-major-expansion-terms-to-identify/
Wednesday, January 22, 2014
Lazy Crossdresser
I have not been out in a month. Not for lack of wanting to, just stuff happens. Christmas came. I got sick. Then my schedule changed. I'm working days 8-5 now instead of evenings and I only get 2 days off instead of 3.
I had plans to go karaoke on Monday night. I told the girls before I got off work. I got home about 6. Then when I got into the bathroom to shave around 7, I decided to skip it. Dallas is a drive, I'll get there at 9 or 930 and then won't leave until close to 12. That will make Tuesday at work a pain. Before I would sleep in on Tuesday since I was off. Even if I was not off, I would not have had to go in until 11.
In my best Yoda voice, "The Pink Fog is weak in this one, I see."
-Candi
I had plans to go karaoke on Monday night. I told the girls before I got off work. I got home about 6. Then when I got into the bathroom to shave around 7, I decided to skip it. Dallas is a drive, I'll get there at 9 or 930 and then won't leave until close to 12. That will make Tuesday at work a pain. Before I would sleep in on Tuesday since I was off. Even if I was not off, I would not have had to go in until 11.
In my best Yoda voice, "The Pink Fog is weak in this one, I see."
-Candi
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