BBW

BBW or Big Beautiful Women.  That is what many crossdressers are.  Since we start with a foundation of a man with (many times) broad shoulders, straight body, more muscular, and taller than your average woman, we become BBW.

Last night after I got home (at midnight of course), B and I stayed up talking a while as I chill out.  Then around 1, B says she wants to get out of the house for a snack.  Taco Cabana is the only (good) thing open this time of night.

We get there and two cops are waiting at the front door.  Of course there are no lobbies open at 1am so I'm thinking someone went crazy and cut up an employee and cooked him in to the borracho beans. But no.  They were just looking to sit and eat and wait for the next emergency.  I told B they are privileged.  Every time I wear my police uniform, someone turns on the music and I have to dance around and take off my clothes.  Not sure what's up with that.

Where else would you go at 1am?  Wal-Mart of course.  And at Wal-Mart, you see things like this:

Some of us would scream, "what was this girl thinking?"  Many of us would say, "that is ballsy, or vagina-y, or whatever."  I would say, "OK.  whatever." After being a crossdresser for a while, I don't care about gender boundaries.  Of course I don't dress to go to work, because even though I don't care, most of the other humans do.

But I digress.  I am writing today because of a dress.  First of all my wife is the best.  The last thing we did before leaving Wal-Mart was go through the girls clothing (of course).  We looked at dresses in the regular (maybe it was juniors but I don't think so) department.  Found some really cute dresses and they had up to XXL size 19.  We I slide into a size 18 and was in heaven.  They were spaghetti strap and B said she had a couple cover-ups that would be good. I liked the red, then the black, then decided on the black with white polka dots with the tie up on the front. 

Came home and put on a bra with padding.  We actually had a discussion about breast forms on the way home.  They are on my Amazon wish-list right now.  I tried to pull the dress up from the bottom, and that was a no go.  So I tried to go over the top.  Started to get a cramp in my shoulder. There was no give in the mid section (which was actually great) and I could not get it on.  Actually I think if I got it on, I would never get it off.  I would be wearing a dress to work for the rest of the week.

So disappointed.  I know I need to lose 20 pounds, but I don't think that dress would have fit anyway.  Shoulders and ribcage are bones and they are not going away. When I started my crossdressing adventures, I told B I was opening a clothing store for CDs.  I think I just need to open one for all women over size 16. We will have a crossdresser day once a month for those girls that are too shy to come out and shop any other day.  And we will have reasonably priced items, good quality, and in my size. 

Unite BBWs.  Unite.

-Candi

Hit & Miss

Netflix now has Hit & Miss season 1. 

HIT AND MISS, from Paul Abbott, creator of Shameless and State of Play, is a high concept and ambitious new series that follows Chloë Sevigny as Mia, a contract killer with a secret: shes a transgender woman. Mias life is sent into a tailspin when she receives a letter from an ex-girlfriend dying from cancer revealing that Mia fathered a son eleven years ago. Faced with a difficult decision, Mia becomes the guardian to a new family forcing her to mix her killer instincts with her newly developing maternal instincts. HIT AND MISS tells the story of a lethal killer at the heart of a troubled family and how all of their lives will be dramatically changed forever.

There is not a lot of action you would hope from a "hitman" show.  It is a decent show about a pre-op transgender learning about herself.  I recommend watching the full season 1. 

-Candi

Acceptance

Crossdressers want to look good.  They want to pass.  But more than that, they want to be accepted.  It's no different than any other person in this world.  We all want to be accepted for who we are (and who we can become). We want to walk into Cheers and hear "Candi!"



It makes me sad to not be accepted.  That is why any crossdresser will hide this part of their life from even their closest loved ones.  Some wives never find out.  Even though some things like men with long hair, ear rings, some even with makeup is accepted in society, crossdressing will be a long way away I am afraid.

My daughter is an example.  She doesn't want to see ANYTHING related to Candi.  I went to the stylist the other day and got my wig cut and styled.  Before I looked like Cousin It and after Julia Roberts (or that's how I remember it).  Without be knowing, B put my wig in rollers and left it in the bathroom to set.  My daughter refused to even go in the bathroom.  She doesn't want to see anything related to Candi. She isn't mean about it, just nothing to do with it.

I hope one day she is accepting of Candi.  I don't have to have full blown up excitement.  I would like her to be comfortable just being around me.  In all my different forms. Just like we all want.

-Candi

Men In Skirts

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/europe/sweden/10107704/Stockholms-male-train-drivers-wearing-skirts-to-work.html

Male train drivers in Stockholm have circumvented a ban on wearing shorts in the summer by coming to work in skirts.

Is it gender bias or just short sightedness?  Why is it ok for a woman to wear a skirt and a man cannot wear shorts?  These men figured out a way to show how ignorant the rule was.  They started crossdressing. 
Now they are probably hoping to get to wear shorts in the near future and put up their skirts.  However, I would like to see acceptance adopted for men wearing skirts everywhere.  Really it just takes a few instances for it to spread. 
This is a good step to showing 1) men in skirts is not bad and 2)Men can do it without feeling creepy :o).

Candi

Same Pants 5 Days

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/alisa-wolfson/one-pair-of-pants_b_3167375.html

This is a cute article.  She wore the same pants for 5 days with different tops.  Pictures are included.  Great suggestions for those (like me) that don't know what to wear many times.

-Candi

What Do You Think About That

"What Do Ya Think About That"

I heard it through the grapevine
My new neighbor don't like my big red barn
A '47 Ford, bullet holes in the door
Broke down motor in the front yard
I got half a mind to paint a plywood sign
And nail it up on a notty pine tree
Saying I was here first
This is my piece of dirt
And your rambling don't rattle me

Some people care about what other people think
Worry about what they say
Let a little gossip
Coming from a loose lip ruin a perfect day
Say, blah, blah, blah, just a jacking their jaws
Got a letta roll off-a my back
I don't give a dern what other people think
What do ya think about that

I wear what I want to, overalls work boots
Crank my music up loud
Like to sling a little mud in my four wheel drive
Trek it all into town

Shot a little eight ball down at the pool hall
Drink a beer with my friends
Now don't judge me and I won't judge you
Cause we all get judged in the end

Some people care about what other people think
Worry about what they say
Let a little gossip
Coming from a loose lip ruin a perfect day
Say, blah, blah, blah, just a jacking their jaws
Got a letta roll offa my back
I don't give a dern what other people think
What do ya think about that

Some people care about what other people think
Worry about what they say
Let a little gossip
Coming from a loose lip ruin a perfect day
Say, blah, blah, blah, just a jacking their jaws
Got a letta roll offa my back
I don't give a dern what other people think
What do ya think about that

Say, I don't give a damn what other people think
What do ya think about that
What do ya think about that

Sports

I love football.  I'm not fanatical, but a fan.  I like basketball.  I can take it or leave it.  There are other "sports" that are not sports, but we will leave the olypics alone right now.

I read this story about a trans woman looking to go into the NBA (that's the man's side of basketball).  Obviously being trans, she used to be a man.  Good article.  The question is, if she didn't go to the NBA, would she go to the WNBA?  Didn't we have this discussion around the time of the olympics where there was a trans woman competing?  I remember reading the other day a trans woman competing in the MMA (Mixed Martial Arts).  You know its where the guys get together that don't \have many brain cells left and beat the hell out of each other. 

So what do you think?  If it's a Trans girl fighting, then would she have an advantage over the other girls?  In the NBA, are the boys scared a girl will beat them?  Or could we be getting to a place where we don't separate the genders and are good with blending. 

I know I am.

-Candi