Everything and nothing. Everybody for sure. Your neighbor. Your aunt. Your husband.
Before I get too deep, There is a wide spectrum for crossdressing from simple "under-dressing" such as panties for a man to full daily en femme. Then there is transitioning to the other gender you feel is YOU.
How is that for an intro. Everything and nothing. Well, to some, dressing to fit the gender they feel they should be is everything to them. It's not about "passing" but feeling like yourself. Your TRUE self. And really is that anything. No. It's nothing. When I see myself dressed en femme, I feel empowered in a different way. When I dress in a business suit, I feel empowered also....again, in a different way. Crossdressing is really nothing when you think really really hard about it and break it down.
Everybody for sure. 1st it depends what your standard is. If you say your standard is society today, then you might as well drop your argument now before someone shows you how stupid it is. If you say really mean your standard is 1950 where men wear suits and women were dresses, I would say you are probably correct. BUT....It's not 1950 anymore.
Women crossdress every day. I made this argument in a previous post. Women wear jeans and t-shirts all the time. They wear sneakers instead of high heels. THEY WORK. Oh My?!? Some don't wear a bra (or panties). Some were "boy shorts" panties. I like these too.
Do many men crossdress also? Well they don't dress in suit and tie all the time. Many men were "nicer" dress shirts and "softer" color ties. Their underwear will lean toward colored softer fabric instead of tightie whities.
Your Neighbor Your aunt Your husband. There is a good chance you know someone who does crossdress. I will stick with men right now. During work, I under-dress. Panties, sometimes stockings and garter (I have not worn a bra to work). I wear a nightie to bed every night. That's what makes me feel good. You would never know because I am all man at work (whatever "all man" means).
The last thing I want to put on this post (although I will probably revisit this subject very soon)... For those wives looking for information or those husbands searching to help your wife understand, be careful who you ready. I read a blog yesterday that basically said "all crossdressers want to transition to female (surgery), want to be promiscuous, want to suck a dick, want to be sissified, and can be controlled because of their crossdressing. Please Please Please Please if you ready that on any blog, go to another page and do not ready anything else on that blog.
Crossdressing is a wide spectrum. Some of us just want to feel pretty. Some want to go out of the house dressed. A few do want to go full time. 80-85% of crossdressers are heterosexual. Don't mistake fantasy talk with actual desires. Read the blogs and post questions on sites such as www.lauras-playground.com. See a gender therapist. If you are really wondering where you are as a couple (or single), read My Husband Betty TOGETHER. This isn't something you want to go through alone.
I will be happy to correspond with you at any time. There is support available. Crossdressing can be a part of a healthy marriage, if you love each other.
Hugs....-Candi
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Thursday, February 9, 2012
Friday, February 3, 2012
Christianity and crossdressing
This is one of many posts.
So the non-biblical part…women wear “men’s” clothes every day and nothing is said about that. However, when men wear “women’s “ clothing, they are shunned. Why? Helen Boyd really said it best in My Husband Betty so I will not rehash it here. Basically..what’s the big deal.
Even in Iran, men are crossdressing:
So….don’t quote Deuteronomy when bashing crossdressing. It doesn’t work. And if you are a married man, look at your wife’s clothing before making comments to crossdressers. And if you are a woman, give the gurl some pointers and go shopping with her. She will love you for it.
In this post I want to discuss Christianity and crossdressing. This is a hard topic for some people, especially those who think crossdressers are all gay, or deranged, or something else. I’m not going to discuss homosexuality because that is not what my blog is about (at least I won’t discuss it right now). So let’s jump right in.
Deuteronomy 22:5 The woman shall not wear that which pertains to a man, neither shall a man put on a woman’s garment, for all that do so are an abomination to the Lord your God.
This verse is in the mosaic law. This law was written by Moses to bring Israel together and keep them pure in relation to people outside Israel. Before that verse it says if you see your brother’s donkey and he is not with it, you should take it home and keep it safe. After that verse about garments, Deuteronomy says if a man marries a woman that is not a virgin, he can go back to the father of the bride and have him stoned.
Deuteronomy 22:5 The woman shall not wear that which pertains to a man, neither shall a man put on a woman’s garment, for all that do so are an abomination to the Lord your God.
This verse is in the mosaic law. This law was written by Moses to bring Israel together and keep them pure in relation to people outside Israel. Before that verse it says if you see your brother’s donkey and he is not with it, you should take it home and keep it safe. After that verse about garments, Deuteronomy says if a man marries a woman that is not a virgin, he can go back to the father of the bride and have him stoned.
So the non-biblical part…women wear “men’s” clothes every day and nothing is said about that. However, when men wear “women’s “ clothing, they are shunned. Why? Helen Boyd really said it best in My Husband Betty so I will not rehash it here. Basically..what’s the big deal.
Even in Iran, men are crossdressing:
So….don’t quote Deuteronomy when bashing crossdressing. It doesn’t work. And if you are a married man, look at your wife’s clothing before making comments to crossdressers. And if you are a woman, give the gurl some pointers and go shopping with her. She will love you for it.
-Candi
Saturday, January 28, 2012
First outing
Well I thought this blog might go in chronological order,but I guess not. For my 1st post though, I wanted to give some details of my 1st outing.
Getting ready on this Saturday night was awesome. I personally really like the process of getting my femme-self ready as much as I like the finished product. In hind-sight my outfit was close to gothic,but not quite. With the black skirt and black straight hair. I had 2 inch heels. I wore footless tights so I could see my redtoenails. At 6’4”, 2 inch heels makes m ea giant; at least that’s what I felt like. We got a box of 100 fake nails in different sizes. I matched the size to my nails, taped each individual to a holder, and painted them the day before gluing them to my fingers. That was the best idea my wife ever had.
My wife helped me with my makeup. I feel like a early Jr. High girl putting my own make-up on. You know what I’m talking about. Too much here and not enough there. I want to look sexy but look like Bozo theClown. So…I get help. I know I need more practice, but I will hold that discussion for a later post.
From top to bottom: wig>make-up>bra with c-cup or d-cup padding>blouse>footless tights>skirt>2 inch heels. I can’t stop grinning. This is going to be a WONDERFUL night. It’stime for us to head out. North Texas is friendly for a crossdresser as well as GLBT. Wewent to a hole-in-the-wall gay bar in Arlington for a drag show. They have these every week to support one charity or another. Our friend wasalready in the bar waiting for us. He found a table. SURPRISE….he didn’t know about Candi, but he does now. I order along-neck beer and my wife orders a mixed drink. He brings my beer with a straw so “my lipstick doesn’t rub off”.
About half way through the night, I really needed to go pee. OK, now I am at a crossroads. What bathroom do I go in to. Our friend asks (he is a great guy, huh), and wife and I go to the girls room. I should have known. The night progressed and we had a blast. At the end of thenight after the show, we had some time to dance. The DJ put on some music and we went out on the floor. What was awesome, we met another couple. The CD has been coming to this club every week “because they don’t judge”. His “lady friend” loves to support him. They were out on the floor dancing and I think she knew Patrick Swayze because she was Dirty Dancing
. We swapped out partners and she did the same with me. Aggressive is an under statement. Fun but aggressive. We closed down that bar.
We get home laughing about the night all the way. In the door, clothes off, matching red nighties on, straight to bed. Although sex was on our minds, we were both exhausted. I started the day as a husband and ended the night as a girlfriend. Soon we will have another night out.
-Candi
Getting ready on this Saturday night was awesome. I personally really like the process of getting my femme-self ready as much as I like the finished product. In hind-sight my outfit was close to gothic,but not quite. With the black skirt and black straight hair. I had 2 inch heels. I wore footless tights so I could see my redtoenails. At 6’4”, 2 inch heels makes m ea giant; at least that’s what I felt like. We got a box of 100 fake nails in different sizes. I matched the size to my nails, taped each individual to a holder, and painted them the day before gluing them to my fingers. That was the best idea my wife ever had.
My wife helped me with my makeup. I feel like a early Jr. High girl putting my own make-up on. You know what I’m talking about. Too much here and not enough there. I want to look sexy but look like Bozo theClown. So…I get help. I know I need more practice, but I will hold that discussion for a later post.
From top to bottom: wig>make-up>bra with c-cup or d-cup padding>blouse>footless tights>skirt>2 inch heels. I can’t stop grinning. This is going to be a WONDERFUL night. It’stime for us to head out. North Texas is friendly for a crossdresser as well as GLBT. Wewent to a hole-in-the-wall gay bar in Arlington for a drag show. They have these every week to support one charity or another. Our friend wasalready in the bar waiting for us. He found a table. SURPRISE….he didn’t know about Candi, but he does now. I order along-neck beer and my wife orders a mixed drink. He brings my beer with a straw so “my lipstick doesn’t rub off”.
About half way through the night, I really needed to go pee. OK, now I am at a crossroads. What bathroom do I go in to. Our friend asks (he is a great guy, huh), and wife and I go to the girls room. I should have known. The night progressed and we had a blast. At the end of thenight after the show, we had some time to dance. The DJ put on some music and we went out on the floor. What was awesome, we met another couple. The CD has been coming to this club every week “because they don’t judge”. His “lady friend” loves to support him. They were out on the floor dancing and I think she knew Patrick Swayze because she was Dirty Dancing
. We swapped out partners and she did the same with me. Aggressive is an under statement. Fun but aggressive. We closed down that bar. We get home laughing about the night all the way. In the door, clothes off, matching red nighties on, straight to bed. Although sex was on our minds, we were both exhausted. I started the day as a husband and ended the night as a girlfriend. Soon we will have another night out.
-Candi
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