Erotica Nudes

B and I have our anniversary coming up next month and we have some "big" plans (at least in our minds).  She has set up a full make-up session for me and her that morning so I will be all day en femme.  That sounds divine.

I rented a bed and breakfast room for the night.  We were going to have professional pictures done of me and her dressed and in lingerie, but after figuring the cost, we are going to do the pictures ourselves.  The hardest part is poses (at least I think that).  So I have been looking at different sites with pictures of women dressed and not that are tasteful.  In the "not" category we can describe this as Erotica.

Erotica would be tasteful nudes (or almost all nude).  The mystery, the sensuality. No toys, no penetration. Just the beautiful body.  CDJanie has talked about doing a nude photo for a couple weeks now and what it means to her. 

I ran across another article today here.  She really pushed the button I have been trying to find.  The question is out there.  Where are the transgender/transvestite erotica?  I can easily get porn.  But I want to rise above the sludge and find real beauty.  That is my plan on our anniversary.

Hugs,

-Candi

Gender Identity Disorder in 4 yr old

Here is a story of a 4yr old (now 5) that was born a boy and now identifies as a girl.  He has the full support of his family and his primary school. 

Here is my favorite line from the mom:

She admitted: "I would love to have my son back, but I want him to be happy. If this is the route he wants to take - if this is what makes him happy - then so be it. I would rather him have my full support.

It's a good story and I hope you read ALL of it, because I know your next (or at least one of your next) questions.  What happens when he gets older.  Here is her answer:

"When he gets a bit older, to Key Stage 2, then obviously the law changes and there will be more difficulties surrounding the bathroom issue, but we'll cross that bridge when we come to it - it may be that Zach will use the staff toilets.

You might think the parents as naive or ignorant, but in this case (as in many) I think the parents are the ones best to make a decision.  Comment either way.  I would like to hear your thoughts.

-Candi

Awesome Night Out (Part 2)

Part 2.....

The show (Turnabout at 1851Club where men dress as women and women dress as men) was supposed to start at 10.  The club is a hole-in-the-wall bar with a space for dancing or shows, a few tables, a single pool table and two small bathrooms.  I wanted to play pool (because I can ROCK the pool table), but the people playing were either too drunk to play or just bad pool players.  So I skipped the pool table.

Of course the show didn't start at 10.  It was closer to 10:30.  Not a lot to say.  Guys and girls (as girls and guys) lip-syncing to top 40 songs and collecting money for LGBT charities such as a teen suicide prevention program. They love to perform and do a good job.  Think of it as jazzercize. :o)

Side note to the night.  Maybe SAD note would be more appropriate.  Last time we went to this club (Turnabout was playing again) we met Mia and Eve.  Eve is a crossdresser and this bar is where she feels comfortable.  Mia could easily be labeled a cougar.  She was fun if not a little (lot) aggressive.  She was there supporting Eve.  Well we saw Eve again last night.  She was with two other CD friends.  One was very convincing.  I really wondered if she was transitioning.  What made me sad was how miserable all three of them looked.  I didn't stare at them or anything, but when I looked at B (and I do that a lot) I could glance over at them.  Never a smile, not a one.  So....here right now I will make a pronouncement.  If you as a crossdresser get to go out (and especially if you get to go with either other CDs or a supportive friend) then have fun.  Fun and smiling go hand in hand.  Giggle, joke, smile, talk, flirt, just have fun.  This is your time outside the closet doors.  Make the most of it. 

We left around 1am.  We decided to not close the bar down this night.  Paid my tab, tipped the bartender and out the door.  On that note, when the bartender takes care of you, take care of the bartender.  And if you want to make it OBVIOUS, pay the first round in cash and tip big then start a tab for the rest.  It's a little manipulation, but hey...it works. I asked B where she wanted to go.  She wanted to go get some groceries after getting a bite to eat. 

We wanted some place sit down (at 1am mind you).  We drove down this road for 5 miles and found nothing.  Pulled out my handy Android powered smart phone and searched for Denny's.  It was the other way.  Turned around and passed the club again.  Turned left to go to Denny's and could not find it.  Looked at my phone again and it was Denny's Towing.  D'oh.  Did a search for Ihop and found one down by the mall off of I20. It was farther than I liked, but reasonable. 

This stop really made the night.  There were some teenage boys in the waiting area of Ihop that made a comment to each other when we walked in, but ignored it. They sat us and our waitress Erika came to take our order.  "What can I get for you ladies to drink." Oh that sounded SO SO SO good.  We decided to split an omelet and pancakes.  When Erika brought back our food, she had the omelet cut in half on separate plates.  I asked for salsa and she brought it right out, offering more which I declined.  She was attentive and an awesome waitress.  I did the survey online and told Ihop they need to give her a raise before a competing place like Papasitos scoops her up. 




B decided she wanted to go home instead of shopping.  I was fine with that.  I was tired also (old married folks).  I kissed her and told her she was awesome and Candi was coming to bed with her.  She asked about the wig and fake nails.  I said yes but I was taking the fake lashes off.  I don't think I'm doing fake lashes again.  1. I would like some cute glasses for my look and lashes are not conducive to glasses.  2. They are a pain in the ass to put on and take off.  I'm sticking with mascara.

Another side note.  When I was in the bathroom the 2nd time, a thumb nail popped off and landed in the toilet.  Well I wasn't going in after it, and even if I did, I didn't have any adhesive.  I only brought lip stick (which I didn't need to reapply, thank you Revlon).  I looked at my other hand and saw the thumb nail on that hand was missing also.  Well Damn.  Oh Well.  When I got home to get ready for bed, I found the 2nd nail in my tights.  Guess it came off at the same time as the 1st one. I'm just going to paint my nails next time.  I love the fake nails, but not sure if it's worth it for the night.  If I could go all week and not have to do contacts, then maybe fake will work.

I got my contacts off even with nails on.  One more reason to get Lasik or at least some prescription glasses. I would really really like to get Laik but $1500 I don't have.  I forgot and left on the lashes until this morning before church.  I also had the nails to work with this morning.  My toes are still bright red and I LOVE them. But I need to take care of that before work this week since they will stand out A LITTLE at the gym.  I slipped on my favorite black nightie to sleep in, rolled into bed, and we both crashed. No sex after a long night out.

Today I had to take off my lashes, nails, all the makeup (eye liner is a bitch to get off in the shower). I need to wash my wig so it's ready for our anniversary.  I can't wait.  That was our night.  It was SSSSOOOO much fun.  I can't wait to do it again. 

Blessings,

-Candi

Awesome Night Out (part 1)

OMG!!??!!  We had an AWESOME night last night.  Daughter was on a church retreat all weekend so I took Saturday off and was en femme for the day.  What a joy and so much fun.  B had to work most of the day, so we only got to spend the evening together.  That was alright though. 

In my last post I put what clothes I had picked out. Well that changed only slightly.  The stockings I originally had were more "fishnet" and I didn't like those so I went and got some solid black with a seam up the back.  I LOVE that look.  However, when I put them together with my denim skirt, there was a slutty malfunction. My skirt comes up just enough to show the tops of my thigh-highs and depending on how long I sit, the straps too.  B voted that down.  I think if I would have pushed she would have voted me off the island (giggles). She pushed for tights instead of thigh-highs.  Well.....she was right and I was glad.  Although I did like that look some (maybe more than some), it was good to be a little more modest.  Also, it was COLD.  When I first stepped outside and the cold hit me, I told B she was right and the tights were a good choice.  Other than that, the outfit was great. 

Before we left, B made a statement. "We are really fucked up.  You are getting all primped and pretty and I'm just throwing together an outfit."  My response was "We may be fucked up in the eyes of society, but we are perfect together." I got a nice smile from that.

I do not have Breast Forms (yet) but I do use the padding from special medical bra I inherited.  They fill out the C cups nicely.  I wore the matching white lace bra and pantie set and B and I bought.  We got one set for her and one for me; especially for this night.  Well the bras were a wordrobe malfunction waiting to happen.  B didn't like her bra. It was actually a little too big (surprising since she is really a DDD) and it had an underwire, which she hates with a passion.  That quickly came off and she wore the non-underwire semi lacy (and semi sexy) bra I bought her a couple weeks ago.  Now since I had been dressed most of the day, I already had my malfunction.  I asked B to sew some pockets into the bra for my padding.  She didn't get a chance.  Therefore, everytime I bend over my breasts go from sexy on the chest to fugly on the belly.  We were able to overcome this problem my safety pinning the bra cups together.  It worked perfectly.  I didn't have any "bounce", but I also didn't have any movement or worries about losing myself.

The Turnabout show (guys dress and girls and girls dress as guys and there is a drag show) at 1851 Club was scheduled to start at 10pm.  We didn't leave the house until after 9 and I knew there would not be a table available much less a parking spot.  We got there about 15 minutes to 10 and half the parking lot was empty.  I was a little nervous.  Did the show get canceled? Is the club just a hole in the wall bar now instead of a hole in the wall bar with fun shows? 

The rain had stopped so we could get in without getting wet (Thank you Lord).  There was a couple tables open waiting for us to take one.  YAY!!  B sat down while I got us drinks.  I asked the bartender what he recommended.  "alcohol" He said, smiling.  Funny and good.  I told him I wanted something sweet, no energy drinks in it and no coffee type drinks in it.  Margarita is a normal choice for us (besides a beer for me when in drab).  He made a fresh margarita and he also recommended a Vodka Cherry Sour, so I got one of those.  LOVED IT.  The margarita was a little stronger and the Vodka Cherry Sour was a little weaker (it was a single) but they were perfect.  I ended up ordering another round. 

While ordering, a blonde skinny thing with a cute red dress on commented how pretty I looked tonight.  Made me smile (and probably blush).  I thanked her.  That was too sweet.

End of Part 1.  I'm breaking this up into 2 parts since it's turning out so long.....

-Candi

Night on the Town

Getting ready for a night out on the town with B.  The daughter is at a church retreat for the weekend and we have all night to have fun. 
I got a new pair of thigh-highs today.  The last ones I got were more of a fish net stocking.  And then just a few days of wearing them and I got a rip :o(. So I got some new ones today.  AND....they have  back seam.  So sexy.
The outfit for tonight will be new stockings and garter (of course).  On that note, who can wear stockings without a garter to hold them up.  I know they have that plastic around the top to hold them, but I have never had a pair that would stay up more than 15 minutes. I'm wearing my denim skirt that I absolutely adore, and the purple top I wore out to the same club last time.  I would go with the grey or purple strappy top, but it's a little chilly.  I have some matching purple flats that finish off the assembly. 

Looks like the rain has stopped (thank you Lord) and we will have a blast.  I will update if we have too much fun; giggles.

-Candi

Crossdresser Getaway

Wouldn't you like to get away from it all?  Do you want a chance to be en femme all day or all weekend?  Well you can do it at one of MANY gatherings across the country. 

Of course there are Tri Ess monthly support groups and other groups that get together.  I was sad to see the DFW Metro CD Group disbanded.  I guess there are not as many of us as I thought....or they are so deep in the closet they cannot come out.

So here is a list of four getaway places you can go to.  Do some searching online and I am sure you will find more.  When you search, make sure you search for an detailed term such as crossdresser getaway.  If you just search for "crossdresser", all you will get is porn.  And if your significant other is searching, that is some good advice.  When your wife is trying to figure you out (when you are trying to figure you out), you don't want her to only see porn.

Keystone Conference in Harrisburg, PA

Southern Comfort in Atlanta, GA

Be-All in Chicago, IL

Dignity Cruises in....well, the ocean

I hope this helps you get the courage to take that step outside your front door in those really cute heels.  Hear the clicking on the walkway, fell the swish of your dress, your hair tickling your neck, and that confident smile in those pout red lips.

-Candi

Being You

This was one of the post from a friend on Facebook.  I think it really sums up a good point for Crossdressing. 

Who care what other people think about you wearing a dress or girls clothes or high heels or stockings, panties, garter, bras, corsets, wigs, hats, etc, etc, etc.  Are you hurting anyone?  Are you hurting yourself by not doing it.

I have read more than one that most crossdressers will purge (throw out everything related to crossdressing) at least once in their life.  Then they will sooner or later buy back again.  That's an expensive lesson; although one way to get a new wardrobe. 

Move forward with your life.  Be happy with who you are.  This life is meant to be lived out to the fullest with those you love.  You might still be looking for the "those" but they will show up soon.  I promise.  The past is gone and the present changes every second.  Keep your eyes on the future.

-Candi