Wednesday, April 30, 2014

Transgender remodeler Reilley Lawrence changes rooms — and preconceptions

Great cover story on a friend and her business. 

http://www.dallasvoice.com/great-spaces-%E2%80%A2-spring-2014-hammer-10171456.html?fb_action_ids=504716952966721&fb_action_types=og.likes

Transgender remodeler Reilley Lawrence changes rooms — and preconceptions

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Remodeler Reilley Lawrence says knowing a homeowner’s ‘colors’ is the first step in an effective redo.
By Jef Tingley
For 47-year-old home remodeler Reilley Lawrence, life is a series of risks and rewards — both personally and professionally.
Before making the decision to live and work as a transgender woman, Reilley was a self-proclaimed, über-macho military guy parachuting out of airplanes and participating in Operation Desert Storm.
She attributes this “jump in and learn” attitude with helping her hone and perfect her home renovation skills, ultimately leading to her business, Deco Design & Remodel, which she started seven years ago.
Taking another personal risk to be true to herself, about two years ago Reilley began dressing as a woman even when meeting with clients. And despite “a few haters,” once again the risk paid off.
“My [gender identity] has really been a nonissue for my clients,” she says. “I’m very outgoing, and my personality and knowledge overshadow any other issues. In fact, I’ve actually found my business has increased since I started dressing full time.”
But being transgender is only incidental to the approach she takes to working on a remodel.
A big believer in the impact colors can have on a space, Reilley begins new project assessments by aligning color choices with the personalities of the homeowners.
“Reds, oranges and yellows work well for vibrant personalities,” she says. “I have a lot of these in my own home.”
For a more peaceful vibe, she recommends blues and greens or earth tones for the yet-to-decide.
“I did an exterior paint project for this very outgoing, fiery couple,” she explains about one of her favorite projects — painting a craftsman home a vibrant collection of brick red, cream, dark green and pistachio accents. “They loved it. That’s the sign of a successful renovation, you should pull up to your house after a long day, and it should make you happy.”
Remodeling can add value, of course, but it can also put you out while in the process. And sometimes, one room needs it more than another. So when helping clients determine which room to remodel, Reilley recommends those in which homeowners spend the most time to get the biggest “bang for the buck.”
“Home is supposed to be a retreat where you can recharge,” she says. “It should be a space that’s comforting, but also kind of hooks you up to jumper cables.”
She cautions, however, that often times cosmetic changes can go just as far as structural and be much easier on the wallet.
“Tearing down walls sounds good until you see the cost,” she says. To help clients overcome this sticker shock, she walks them through cost effective options that can bring immediate change to make a space more inviting such as paint and trim.
While some clients come to Reilley with a complete vision in mind, others need much more guidance. Reilley recommends the uninspired homeowner look at magazines or take photos of rooms they like to piece together elements of what they want. From there, she even sketches out a rendering of what the finished product might look like.
“I’ll do anything to help get them to stop staring at four white walls,” she says.
A good remodel comes down to being true to your personal aesthetic and creating the space that’s authentic and enjoyable. Having accomplished this in real life, Reilley now helps others down this same inspired path — a fiery yellow one for the outgoing and a peaceful blue one for the more subdued.
For more information, contact Deco Design & Remodel, 972-371-9200. DangerReilley@gmail.com.

Wednesday, April 23, 2014

Some Gays Are Ignorant And That's OK

So I had this post rattling around in my head after talking to a friend a couple weeks ago.  He said that he is attracted to women, but when he is She, she is attracted more to men.  As a crossdresser, I'm trying to wrap my head around gender fluidity so I can get other people's heads wrapped around it also.  Then I stumbled onto this article.  It's short sweet and to the point.

http://genderfun.blogspot.com/2013/05/some-gays-are-ignorant-and-thats-ok.html

Read the whole thing, but here is one paragraph:

You would think that with the fight for equality their would be more educating the masses on what being Gay is all about, showcasing the similarities between the Gay and Straight human experience yet the divide seems to be getting wider. Both parties, Gay and Straight, seem unwilling to see the gray area of the sexual orientation scale. 

enjoy...

-Candi

Thursday, April 17, 2014

Pictures and Meetup

Went to a Meetup tonight.  B wasn't feeling well so I went alone...in boy mode like I usually do in FTW.   Saw Robert and met a few new people.  The new girls asked to see a picture of Candi.  Well my picture @ the last karaoke meetup at Sue Ellens is a good pic so I pulled up the app and the picture is gone.  NNNNNOOOOOOOO. 

Well I have a couple from Christmas party with B and Jackie Bee.  Also some from Halloween.  I got home and started thinking.  What would Google do.  So I logged into Google+ under Candi and sure enough, I have a dozen pics in there.  There is the black lace dress that I was going to show off. 

The moment has passed, but nice to know that the pic is still alive and well. 

-Candi

Tuesday, April 1, 2014

Karaoke

Karaoke was not well attended last night, but that makes it better conversation.  Nicole was in drag (came in boy mode) and didn't bring her camera.  So before I left I got just a few pictures.  Since this is my blog, I'm showing off my new dress.






Facebook

Facebook is a great tool.  You can connect with your current friends, set up events, message, etc.  You can also connect with old high school people that you never talked to even when you were in high school. 
And lastly you can send pictures of your penis to girls on Facebook.  That happened to me yesterday.  I was happily typing along and a message appeared "Hi". Well "Hi" back Deram Too (whoever you are).  Maybe I added him as a friend because he is a friend of a friend.  Not sure.  I get three dots "...", then I get a picture of his (I assume) penis.
Yes you read that correctly.  Even when I tell him I'm not interested, he pushes wanting pictures from me.  REALLY?!?  How many times has that actually worked for you.  Did you just read a story on Fictionmania or Literotica and think "if it worked in this story, it has to work for me." 
I just blocked him.  I thought about some replies but wasn't fast on my heels so just blocked.  But here are some responses I thought of after the fact.

I prefer an innie instead of an outie.

Looks like some red bumps on there.  You need to get that checked out.

Do you have something in a larger size?


After talking to the girls last night, it's not unusual at all. guess I will be ready for the next one.

-Candi